How To Enjoy Bondage In Bed In A Safe Way
We assume that a lot of people have heard of BDSM, but we’re not sure how many of you have considered trying it. Namely, there’s a misconception that bondage is in fact very unsafe, and potentially dangerous.
Aside from that, some people also believe that people who enjoy it are very strange (to say the least), but that’s actually far from reality. BDSM is frankly one of the most entertaining and interesting ways of exploring various sex-related things.
Of course, it doesn’t mean that it’s intended for everyone (particularly for shy individuals), but it’s far from detrimental. If you would like to give it a try, yet you’ve never done it before, then maybe this guide will help you take those first steps.
Embrace Your Imaginative Side
Those who have no experience when it comes to this frequently make the same mistakes. Namely, all they do is go to the sex shop, and purchase the toys they find most suitable for these purposes, only to realize that bondage may not be “their thing”.
But that’s not how things are supposed to be. For starters, you should talk to your partner to see what the two of you find most appealing in terms of various sex positions and in these instances, don’t forget that you must definitely turn your imagination on.
Without it, you won’t be able to fully enjoy and figure out what truly turns you on. If you need some “creative” help when it comes to this, you can always check out different BDSM art that really takes bondage to a whole new level. You’ll get to see various fictional characters (such as famous heroines from popular cartoons) being put in various interesting and sexy situations.
All this art can definitely encourage beginners to explore their kinky side and enjoy bondage to the maximum. Besides that, it also wouldn’t hurt to browse the web because it’s filled with a variety of different bondage stories that perfectly depict what you’re about to experience.
Do Not Forget To Previously Talk To Your Partner
Before you embark on this “journey”, you first must talk to your partner about this, otherwise, you won’t have a great time. Both of you are supposed to determine what makes you more or less comfortable.
Bear in mind that this isn’t anything you should be ashamed of. In these types of situations, being honest is an absolute must, so that you can be relaxed one hundred percent and be able to explore the areas you find the most appealing.
Strangers Are A Huge No-No
Now, there are people who firmly believe that they’ll be a lot more comfortable if they try this out with people they are seeing for the first time. According to numerous sex gurus, this is a massive mistake.
Yes, it’s an okay idea if you have a plethora of experience when it comes to bondage, however, if you’re a newbie, then we wouldn’t recommend it. Keep in mind that your first time needs to be with a person you feel very comfortable with.
And there’s no way you’ll be able to be fully relaxed with some random stranger. After all, this entire experience is all about your needs and boundaries and we’re not sure you’ll be able to set them with a person you do not know at all.
As previously stated, if you have lots of experience when it comes to BDSM, then you can give it a go, but if this is your first time, then the only person who is supposed to be part of this experience is your partner and no one else.
Conduct Some Research
Just like with all the topics and things that pique your interest (and that you’re not familiar with), you should always conduct some research just to get your facts straight. Now, we are not saying that you should instantly become a pro, but just gather as much useful information as possible so you can get a grasp of everything that you will potentially experience.
Only then you’ll be able to tell your partner exactly what you want and what you are ready to experience. Fortunately, there are various sources of information on the web (like different BDSM podcasts, forums, and communities) where you can get all the right info.
Besides these sources, you can also take a look at one of the most popular documentaries on Netflix, called Turned On, where you’ll be provided with some awesome tips regarding bondage, and so much more.
Establish A Safe Word
Before taking any further steps when it comes to this, it’s of huge importance to establish a safe word. Of course, you shouldn’t restrict yourself to one only. Having several ones is recommendable as well.
In bondage, the whole point of having a safe word is to try to tell your partner to either stop or slow things down when you start to feel uncomfortable. It wouldn’t be advisable to utilize terms such as “no”, or “don’t” because people usually use them as part of the play.
Instead, you should opt for words that you wouldn’t normally employ, like “gray”, “black”, and others. In these instances, gray can be the sign that you want your partner to slow things down, while black can suggest that you want to end this whole thing.
These are just our examples to show you how things are supposed to work in terms of a safe word, however, it’s up to you to decide which one you are going to utilize.
It’s Time For Some Shopping!
Although there’s no doubt that bondage is extremely thrilling, if you would like to take things up a notch, then you must definitely do some shopping. It would be great if you bought some interesting props and toys that are going to help you enjoy BDSM even more!
So what are the best options? The most popular ones are vibrators, dildos, chain nipple clamps, paddles, etc.
Everyone who has ever tried BDSM will tell you that by trying it out, you’ll be entering a world that’s packed with a variety of alluring, sex-related possibilities. However, if you want to have the time of your life, then you must follow all these tips above.
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